UNHEALTHY ROLES: A Self Test

INSTRUCTIONS: Read each of the following statements; then choose the term which best describes your response. Put the number that corresponds to the term by each statement. Add your score. Your lowest score will more than likely be your primary role. The next lowest will be your secondary role.

1 = Always

2 = Very Often

3 = Often

4 = Sometimes

5 = Seldom

6 = Very Seldom

7 = Never

THE HERO

____I am extremely helpful to others

____I am very responsible.

____It is important that things be done right.

____People often wonder how I can do so many things.

____I have very high standards

____People say that I am a perfectionist.

____I often feel guilty when things do not go well.

____It is hard for me to receive a compliment.

____I often drive myself harder than I should.

____I do not like to fail at anything.

____ TOTAL

THE LOST CHILD

____I do not like conflict.

____I will go along with you just to avoid conflict

____I find ways to withdraw when things are tense.

____People describe me as quiet and withdrawn.

____I consider myself a loner; an independent-type.

____I tend to feel insignificant.

____I often fantasize or daydream.

____I often feel lonely.

____I often feel I have to do what others want.

____I find it difficult to ask for whatI need.

____ TOTAL

THE MASCOT

____It is important to have a good time.

____I have a lot of energy

____I love to be around people.

____I am told that I am the life of the party.

____I do not like conflict.

____When I sense conflict, I try to make things better with humor.

____Commitment is difficult for me.

____I do not like to get too serious

____I don't let people know the real me.

____I sometimes wonder who the real me is.

____TOTAL

THE SCAPEGOAT

____I am my own person.

____I am often angry.

____Life seems unfair to me.

____People constantly find fault with me. They blame me for what goes wrong.

____I have trouble getting close to people.

____It seems like someone is always letting me down.

____I am told that I am stubborn.

____I would rather learn things my own way.

____I do not like people telling me what to do.

____I can be a stong leader, but it can go in the wrong direction.

____TOTAL

QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER:

WHICH IS MY PRIMARY ROLE? ______________

WHICH IS MY SECONDARY ROLE? ______________