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WELL-FUNCTIONING FAMILY
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POORLY-FUNCTIONING FAMILY
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1. Parents are substantially shame-free, so they don't expect to be perfect.
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1. Parents are significantly shame-bound. so they believe they should be perfect.
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2. Parents are consistantly adequate because they admit personal problems and seek help to resolve them. "People can have problems" Not bound by shame.
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2. Parents are significantly impaired because they won't admit personal problems and seek help to resolve them. |
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3. Parents expect family problems so when the problems come,they focus on problem-solving.
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3. Parents expect family to be problem-free, so when the problems come, they focus on appearance management.
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4. Parents consistently tell the truth about what's happening in and around the family.
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4. Parents consistently distort and deny what's happening in and around the family to conceal problems.
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Excerpt from Shame-Free Parenting by Dr. Sandra Wilson (InterVarsity, 1992)
